No Go

Today I had a conversation with someone about cheating. To me, cheating is a broad subject. In my mind it is anything you do that you don’t want your partner knowing about. So, in my definition this includes having inappropriate talks, holding hands, kissing, and obviously having sex with someone else.

When it comes down to it, I’m a pretty opinionated person on this subject. I’ve been on the receiving end of it numerous times, with numerous people. It is not a good feeling. Nor is it excusable in any way, shape, or form in my opinion.

I know of couples who cheat on each other, know that the other does, and yet they stick around. This blows my mind. Really, why be in that relationship at all? Obviously you aren’t attracted to the person anymore so why stick around. Why waste your time if your feelings are no longer pure.

I also think cheating is inexcusable. No matter what circumstance you were in, no matter what state, if you did it then you did and now you deserve to live the consequences. I’ve been that person who says “seriously, I’m giving you ONE more chance”. And then that chance turns into another. And another. And another. Until you realize that not only has that person stopped caring about you and totally disregarded your feelings, but you have stopped taking ownership of your own beliefs and self worth.

I know the majority of cheating happens when someone is drunk. I’ve seen it happen plenty of times. Sober thoughts are drunk actions. Finished. So it makes me pity people cheating in a way because they don’t even know what they want anymore. And if you are capable of cheating when you are drunk, it makes it that much easier the next time when the opportunity presents itself sober. If you are that unhappy or that overly attracted to someone else then who you are with, do everyone a favour and end the relationship. I can speak first hand when I say that I’d much rather be broken up with for an honest reason then be lied to and cheated on.

I personally don’t understand the motives behind cheating, and I probably never will. I will never be on the cheatee side of the situation. I could never put that much hurt on someone I care about, and I could never live with that lie on my shoulders.

I know its hard saying that you wont let this happen to you again. That they just used the last chance they had. That you are gone, and they can live their live with whatever it is they desire. Hard, but open your eyes to the situation at hand and put your foot down. Stand up for the treatment and honesty you deserve. And if you have feelings of doubt, I pretty much guarantee they’re spot on.

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